Why EFT?

When communication tools fall short, something deeper is usually missing.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is widely regarded as the gold standard in couples therapy — not because it teaches better communication, but because it helps couples understand the emotional patterns beneath the words.

At The Connected Marriage, I use EFT to help partners identify the negative cycles that keep them stuck — and replace them with secure, emotionally attuned connection that lasts.

Whether you're recovering from infidelity, stuck in chronic conflict, or feeling like roommates instead of lovers, EFT offers a proven pathway back to each other.

What Is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

EFT is a research-backed, attachment-based model of couples therapy.
It helps couples move from disconnection to closeness by:

  • Identifying the negative emotional cycle (pursue/withdraw, criticize/shut down, etc.)

  • Understanding the deeper fears, needs, and longings driving each partner’s behavior

  • Creating new patterns of emotional responsiveness, safety, and mutual support

It’s not just about learning to “communicate better.”
It’s about changing how you experience each other — emotionally, relationally, and vulnerably.

How EFT Feels in Session

Through this process, I’ll guide you to:

  • Recognize and soften your reactive patterns

  • Express your underlying needs and emotions — safely

  • Hear your partner with more presence and empathy

  • Build new, secure ways of connecting, even in hard moments

There’s no judgment here.
Just structure, guidance, and emotional safety — so you can finally talk about what truly matters.

Who EFT Is For

EFT is especially effective for couples navigating:

  • Emotional disconnection or “roommate syndrome”

  • The aftermath of infidelity or betrayal

  • Cycles of high-conflict or emotional withdrawal

  • Difficulty expressing needs, fear of vulnerability, or relational anxiety

  • A desire to feel closer, safer, and more deeply understood

Serving Greater Hartford from Our Windsor Office

Our practice is based in Windsor, CT, just minutes from West Hartford, Glastonbury, Avon, Farmington, and South Windsor.

As a fully private-pay practice, we offer:

  • Extended 75-minute sessions

  • Full confidentiality — no insurance reporting

  • A calm, boutique environment where your relationship is our only focus